I was telling a friend I enrolled in a writing workshop. She knew I’ve been searching for ways to explore my creativity. And her advice was to be careful about choosing writing because it might come from a subconscious need to Continue reading “Advisers”

Too comfortable for discomfort

Thinking and over thinking is not a solution. But nor is avoiding or ignoring the dissatisfactions in your life.

I’m a person who likes comfort. But discomfort makes me uncomfortable enough to give up comfort for a while and do something about the discomfort.

Fear-based decisions

In my everyday life, I work as an accountant, and the past few weeks have been the busiest weeks of the year.
During this period I saw how important it is to work with people you can count on. I did have people I can count on in the company I work for, but I couldn’t count on the person who works for me. We’ve been working together for about eight months and I kept hoping that things will get better.
The thought of starting from the beginning with someone new made me feel overwhelmed, unsure, and I kept avoiding to let her go.
But it’s a fear based decision.

Fear-based decisions are the worst kinds.
They keep you stuck in a situation that you see no improvement of, that does have a way out, but you don’t get out of it because of an imagined possible worst case scenario.
In most cases, the things that you imagine and keep you stuck will never happen. They only exist in your head.
The french philosopher Michel Montagne ironically said:

My life has been full of terrible misfortunes, most of which never happened.

It’s the same thing with fear based decisions.
The reality is sweeter than our scary dreams. Things are much simpler and have a better ending than what we fear might happen. All we need to do is take the steps to resolve them, one by one.