mind patterns

Fear-based decisions

This time of the year is the busiest at my workplace. And this year, I couldn’t even count on the person who works for me. We’ve been working together for about eight months, and I kept hoping that things will get better. They never did, but the thought of starting from the beginning with someone new made me feel overwhelmed, and I kept avoiding letting her go and searching for someone else.

It was a decision based on fear. And these are the worst kinds. They keep you stuck in a place that you see no improvement of. The situation does have a way out, but you don’t get out of it because you imagine worst-case scenarios. In most cases, the things that you imagine and keep you stuck, will never happen. They only exist in your imagination.
The French philosopher Michel Montagne ironically said:

My life has been full of terrible misfortunes, most of which never happened.

The reality is less dramatic than our scary dreams. Things are much simpler and have a better ending than what we fear might happen. All we need to do is to take the next step that is most simple to take from where we are now. And then the next one.

2 thoughts on “Fear-based decisions

  1. Mervi

    Oh this is so true! I make fear based decisions way too often. Usually the kind where I just don’t do something, fearing it may turn out bad (or really good, fear of success is a thing too). This is a good reminder, thank you! 🙂

  2. Teodora Post author

    Glad the article was useful, Mervi. And thank you for commenting.
    It’s good to be aware of our patterns.
    I recognize in myself a pattern of choosing the “safe” path …


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