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What have you been thinking about lately?

What if, instead of the classical questions “How have you been doing?” and “How are you?” we’d ask:

“What have you been thinking about lately?”

At least it’s a question you can’t answer with the default “Fine, thanks”.

What if, we’d really answer this question?

8 thoughts on “What have you been thinking about lately?

  1. Karina

    Wow, so interesting as I’ve been thinking about those questions recently and have also started writing a blog post about it – what a lovely synchronicity there!I’ve written, however, about another commonly used question here: http://www.thewithinblog.com/where-are-you-from/
    Yeah, some of those ‘chitchat’ questions are sometimes my pet peeves…They seem so simple, yet they don’t always really encourage to provide full or ADEQUATE answer and often are used as a ‘silence filler’. Thanks for sharing 🙂

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    1. Teodora Post author

      yes, I find the how have you been doing question really boring, And last time I met someone who asked me that I thought of this idea, that if they’d ask me “what have you been thinking lately?” – I’d definitely have more interesting things to say 🙂
      I read your post and definitely get why the “Where are you from?” question would be similarly boring and repetitive when you live in another country. I don’t get that much, because I live in the country I am born in. 🙂

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    1. Teodora Post author

      Hmm … maybe people are so used to the default question and answer, that they find this question difficult, or maybe they don’t want to share. I’d keep asking, they might wake up from the default pleasantries at some point.

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  2. Iuliana Marchian

    I would elaborate and ask :’ How do you feel?’ That’s a tough question that is usually avoided because the answer would trigger the questioner to think of his own feelings – and that’s even more difficult than asking the standard ‘How are you?’

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    1. Teodora Post author

      Indeed, that question is a difficult one, I have to admit, even for me. I’ve read that depending on the personality type, for some people, it’s easier to access how they really feel, while for others it’s more difficult.

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